Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
The most important person to foster a healthy relationship with is yourself. It’s easy to spend a lot of time and energy fostering relationships with others and overlook the one with yourself. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, it makes all other relationships easier. What building blocks are you using to foster a relationship with yourself?
We can use the attributes contained in the quote to explore these building blocks in relationship with our own selves.
What does it mean to trust yourself? Trust includes a vulnerability of believing in yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks. Have faith in the vast skills and abilities within you. How often do you doubt yourself? Or tell yourself that you don’t have what it takes to accomplish something? Is that really true or is fear present, steering you away from making an effort and discovering what you’re really capable of? Trusting your abilities also means using what you have within you to discover or learn something new. It doesn’t mean you have to know all of the answers before you start, but it does invite you to build on what you know or have within you. Trust also involves loving yourself enough to set boundaries and to honor them. Trust that you are worthy of laying down your own ground rules and enforcing them. Trust that self-love is more indestructible than acceptance from another person. Believe in yourself.
Honesty and integrity go together in my mind. Being honest with yourself includes speaking to yourself with integrity. When the clamoring self-judgment in your head starts, be honest with yourself. Are those thoughts really true? Do you really believe them? Give yourself honest feedback without shame or blame. Be honest about how you feel. Avoid trying to convince yourself that you feel different than how you actually feel or justifying the feelings away. Feelings are your own personal feedback antennae. Tune into them and adjust accordingly. Honesty will serve you well in all situations, regardless of the discernment used to guide what or how much you choose to share. Be honest with yourself about what you believe. The opinion of others is simply that…the opinion of others.
Be humble. There is no need to arrogantly place yourself above anyone else. Every person is doing the best they can, with what they have, within the experiences they are having. We are all equals with varying skill sets and resources available. You can experience joy in your accomplishments and share them with others. The invitation is to avoid boasting or vanity because of your achievements. Celebrate who you are and the gifts you have from a heart-centered space of gratitude and humility.
This building block connects to honesty. Although it may seem hard to grasp, we can hide things from ourselves. Avoidance is an example of lacking transparency, making an effort to steer clear of what you know is important and necessary to face or to do. Lying to yourself is another form of lacking transparency. The desire to tell yourself what you most want to hear instead of being honest with yourself and seeing or hearing the inevitable. Acceptance supports transparency, so you can be honest about how you feel or what you’re facing. Transparency is your personal reality checker.
Holding yourself responsible for the choices you make is another essential building block. Blaming others doesn’t make anything easier or better; it merely gives you more to unwind down the road. When you choose to be accountable for your choices, you learn and grow. You deepen self-acceptance and open to greater awareness. You gain helpful insight for future experiences that may include the same person/people or similar experience.
One take away from all of this is the importance of building a relationship with yourself. If you wanted to, you could peel away all of those other words and replace them with love. When you love yourself, you trust in all that is within you. When you love yourself, you are honest about your areas of weakness. When you love yourself, you are humble in your gifts. When you love yourself, you are transparent with yourself and accept the stuff still in the shadows. When you love yourself, you hold yourself accountable for the choices you make and act with integrity if you need to right a wrong. When you love yourself, you have a solid foundation from which to build relationships with others.
What are your building blocks?
How stable is your foundation?
What links could be strengthened?
Walking together in light, love, and peace. 🙏
When I choose to trust myself,
I foster a relationship within.