Don’t let your work define you. But let you define what works for you to defy and refine you even more.
—Ana Claudia Antunes
I love my work. It is a natural outpouring of who I am. At the same time, I can also put a decent amount of pressure on myself outside of the hands-on healing work I do. I can easily fall into the trap of comparisons on various social media platforms or judge success by book sales. Checking how many followers I have isn’t going to make me have more followers. Trying to be like somebody else isn’t going to do the trick, either. I need to strike the phrase, “I wonder what they’ll think if I reply this way to their comment?” from my mental loop. I get to define my work and my own self. This is all fear-based yet the awareness is a necessary part of my growth, or refinement. Interestingly enough, it’s not about growth in sales, followers on social media, or the number of hands-on healing sessions I have each week.
It’s about self-love.
As long as my efforts for growth come from a place of self-love, I am refining myself in alignment with my highest good. If I apply pressure on myself to be the next influencer on Instagram, I am misaligned. Is being an ‘influencer’ really something I want? Talk about pressure! Do I want people to resonate with what I share? Absolutely. Do I want that to happen by forcing myself to be someone other than who I am? Definitely not. Part of defining myself includes honoring who I am, which is someone who is a tad socially awkward and prefers one on one time over group settings. If I base the worthiness of my message and my work on how many people purchase my book, I am doing myself a huge disservice. My book was written from a little spark of inspiration within…a divine love nudge. I wrote it for me, resting in the knowledge that I am not alone on this journey of life, navigating ways to find inner peace, joy, and connection.
When I choose to trust the ripple effect of any aspect of my work, I am aligned and centered in love. My responsibility is to continue on the path, sharing myself, sharing my work, sharing what speaks to me and allowing those who feel the ripple to respond as they are called.
When my growth work is aligned with self-love, I surrender and trust the process.
I was recently introduced to a song called “I Release Control” by Alexa Sunshine Rose. It is a sung mantra and exactly what I needed. The words are, “I release control and surrender to the flow of love that will heal me.” Over and over. For seven minutes. It’s beautiful and resonates right in my heart center when I sing along with it.
When I choose to refine myself while centered in self-love, my heart defines what works for me.
And let me tell you, that’s exciting and scary all at the same time. While the concept of self-love is grand, the surrender to it can be challenging. All sorts of little naggy things start popping up like a game of Whack-a-Mole. Sometimes it’s fear around what I do or don’t do, or what I say or don’t say, all the way to wondering how what I did say was interpreted. Some might even refer to this as perfectionism and the fear of creating conflict. 😊 I can be my own best interference to love and acceptance. I am realizing that as long as I define myself from within my heart, I will continually be refined into the gem that I have always been…but didn’t always see.
When was the last time you gave yourself permission to define what works for you?
Once you defined what works for you, were you able to act within that definition?
Why or why not?
Walking together in light, love, peace...and refinement.