When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too.
—Paulo Coelho

Here’s a juicy musing for you: how well do you love?

Think about how well you love others as well as how you love yourself, with the latter being even more important.

When I choose to love myself, it becomes easier to let the reactions of others roll off my back. It’s simply another facet of not taking things personally. If only it were always as easy as it sounds…

For me, I find it a bit more challenging to let things slide when the other person involved is closer to me. The closer within my circle, the more vulnerable I feel. The more vulnerable I feel, the more likely I am to take things personally. For example, I’m not a fan of being looked at like I have seven heads when I share something. The closer you are to me, the more impact that will have on me. I’m also not a fan of the, “you should’ve…”. That feels like a blast of non-acceptance to me. Granted, I get to add just enough insecurity and anxiety to the mix to really keep things exciting. 😊

It’s an interesting little irony, really. I am able to offer kindness and compassion to others, looking beyond their words and actions and honoring who they are…unless the words and actions are directed towards me. Then I can get all snarled up in taking things personally. Again, the closer the personal connection, the more snarly things can get.

I am grateful to have spent a decent amount of time noticing this pattern and changing my response…by loving myself even more; loving myself better. If someone looks at me like I’m crazy when I share something, I see that as having shared something that has made them uncomfortable enough that they will either open to conversation about it or mull it over on their own. That works for me. It inspires hope that there is openness in perception. I’m not seeking agreement, but a willingness to expand the mind.

How well do you love yourself?

As I continue to love myself better, my ability to stand in love and offer love increases. My energy expands and opens the door to greater acceptance of love—to others as well as myself. I become a better version of myself when I love myself more. I become a ripple of love and light to be seen and experienced by others. I can set boundaries for myself in a way that supports my needs as well as honoring another…and be at peace with it. I can be seen for me and not worry about how I am received. As long as I receive me, love wins.

I always hold the intention of loving myself better. Why not? Every day presents opportunities to grow and love myself more, resulting in a better me. A better me influences better others around me. Better others around me inspires better love by those individuals. Sounds pretty fabulous, wouldn’t you say?

How well do you love?

Walking together in light, love, and peace 🙏

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