Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.
There are quite a few “F” words that contribute to worry, frustration and resentment:
But the word I am referring to is FORGIVENESS. All of the other “F” words listed take us out of the place of love and firmly into a place of fear. Forgiveness fosters the extension of love…to yourself and to others.
What do you find yourself worrying about?
For me, I tend to worry about how I am perceived and received by the outside world. Did I do the right thing? Say the right thing? Offer the right thing? I often wonder if my introversion is more about staying grounded in me more than anything else. If I’m not careful, my worry can shift to self-judgment. This is where love and forgiveness come into play. As strange as it may sound to include forgiveness in this scenario, hear me out. When I start replaying and judging what I did or didn’t do, it is a form of rejecting who I am and what I have to offer. I hold the intention of offering my best in any moment, knowing that my best will shift and look different throughout each day. When I start to worry or judge myself, I am essentially not accepting myself and letting someone else take the reins. In this scenario, forgiveness is all about loving who I am and the choices I made. Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past can be anything other than what it was. Choosing to love and accept myself for the choices I made eases the worry around someone else’s perception of what I offered. Whether or not another receives what I offer is not up to me; it is up to them. Worrying about it isn’t going to change anything.
How can you shift from worry to love in your life?
Frustration is another energy zapper. It inspires ruminating about what didn’t happen instead of focusing on what you want to happen. All of the frustration in the world isn’t going to change a situation or a person. It will keep you running up against a wall; a wall of fear. Frustration is a ‘nicer’ word than anger, which is ultimately what frustration is. Anger tends to mask fear, and fear masks the vulnerability of the wound or limiting belief that needs healing. I can dance with frustration, too; a lovely little circle dance, no less. I get frustrated around a similar occurrence and have yet to fully open to love and acceptance. I need to love and accept what I offer as well as the situation I face. Although I don’t have the power to shift the outcome for all involved, I do have the power to accept what is in front of me and allow that to be what it is. When I can fully soften and accept the contributions being made from all sides, including mine, love and forgiveness can swoop in. It’s amazing how a little tenderness can pave the way for openness.
What situation or person do you find yourself chasing on the hamster wheel of frustration?
How can you shift your mindset to one of love and acceptance, first and foremost towards yourself?
Resentment is a culmination of worry and frustration. The worry remains unresolved, which turns into frustration because there seemingly isn’t a solution, which then turns into resentment. Resentment only affects the person gripping it. I have learned that behind resentment lies deep sadness; a sadness that can feel suffocating yet aches for resolution. Sadness that only forgiveness can ease, supported by love and acceptance.
Is there someone you hold resentment towards?
If so, what is behind that feeling?
How can you bring forgiveness into the mix?
Ultimately, forgiveness is that salve that brings healing and the most important person to offer it to is yourself. As you continue to deepen love and acceptance of yourself, it is easier to extend the olive branch to others. Life is too precious to be trapped and bound by worry, frustration and resentment. Let love be your guide, especially in relating to yourself.
Walking together in light, love, and peace. 🙏