Do you know when to let go? To a grudge? To an idea? To an expectation?

When do you stop swimming against the current and allow others to be responsible for themselves and their own choices?

When do you stop pressing to be heard and understood and surrender to allowing things to unfold?

What does it mean to actually let go?

All of my musings can whittle down to one thing: self-love.

Can you love yourself enough to see your value?

There is a desire to hang on and fight for what we want. It's a blessing and a curse. The key is to have a clear understanding of what the intention or motivation is behind the fighting.

If you're pressing onward in the face of adversity, love yourself enough to stay true to you and honor the courage and determination within to carry on.

If you're adamantly trying to get someone to change their point of view, especially within your closer-knit circle, love yourself enough to know that it's not up to you. Share your belief or opinion, allow the other to do the same, and then surrender. Allow things to unfold naturally and accept the outcome.

Know in your heart that you have a right to feel how you feel and believe what you believe.

Your experience is your own and the same holds true for the other. The key is avoiding the difference in opinion to be translated as you being a bad person, or demanding too much, or being shamed for misinterpreting what was shared.

Your reaction is unique and informed by your heart. It is real for you. No one can make you feel ashamed...unless you allow it. Your boundaries must be strong and your self-love must be stronger.

At the core of human interactions, the choice needs to be love.

Allow for a difference in perception rather than attack.

Allow for a difference in choice rather than condemn.

Allow for the unfolding rather than nagging.

Allow for a difference in approach rather than control.

Allow for time to heal rather than demand change.


Going back to the first questions, you know when to let go of a grudge when you love yourself more than the issue.

You know when to let go of an idea when you love yourself more than being right.

You know when to let go of an expectation when you love yourself more than controlling an experience.

You know when to stop swimming against the current when you love yourself more than fixing others.

You know when to stop pressing to be heard when you love yourself more than forcing another to hear what they aren't ready or able to hear.

Letting go means loving.


What do you need to let go of?

How can you choose love more often in your life?


Walking together in light, LOVE, and peace.

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1 Comment

  1. Charles Omofuma Ituah on June 16, 2020 at 4:18 pm

    amazing, inspiring write up

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