Ideas

 

Change can be a struggle. New ideas require loss…loss of old stories, old beliefs, old restrictions. The important element to remember is the expansiveness that occurs because of the change.

We face the difficulty of change daily-be it at work, at home or with our friends. We have all met people whom we deem as “resistant to change”. How often do we look in the mirror and notice our own resistance to change?

Relationships seem to carry quite a bit of resistance in this area, potentially leading to a lot of friction.

Friendships can go through a time of shifting and changing, sometimes ending the friendship. One person may become more settled in a way of life or belief pattern that doesn’t sit well with the other. This can lead to friction, misunderstanding or stifling thoughts to avoid conflict. Old ideas, regardless of how unhealthy or limiting they are, become comfortable and familiar. We mistakenly allow ourselves to be defined by the old ideas or stories, limiting growth and change.

Family relationships can also be affected by resisting the release of old ideas or experiences. Tension can be created by the simple knowing that family will be together. The old stories can go among family members, creating a mindset of how things are going to unfold. We see and experience life through the lens of our beliefs, regardless of how accurate they are. People change, but getting stuck in what happened in the past only interferes with being open to seeing what is really going on.

Forgetting old ideas or grievances in a marital relationship is essential to a healthy connection. When one resists letting go of old beliefs surrounding their partner, there is unnecessary pressure and tension. All of the resistance builds up and then the couple doesn’t remember the love that brought them together in the first place.

And, of course, a significant relationship to allow for new ideas is the one with you. No one needs to carry old beliefs, old stories, old restrictions, old choices or old ANYTHING with them. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback. Be willing to accept new ideas and beliefs about yourself. Choose to be vulnerable and see yourself in a new light. Release the old limitations and embrace new ideas.

What one new idea can you embrace today?

What old idea do you feel particularly “attached” to?

Be willing to recognize the difference between ideas from your head and ideas from your heart. Choose the ideas from your heart.